Win at Divorce
Divorce is a challenging moment that can be lengthy, stressful, and very emotional. These divorce factors are multiplied immensely for stay at home moms that have their children’s best interests at the forefront of the separation. Luckily there are ways to keep a cool head and win at divorce.
Did you know that 82.2 percent of parents with custody are mothers? Over 44 percent of those mothers are in fact divorced. How do single moms manage? In many cases the outcome of the divorce can have a significant impact, whether it is custody or child support.
Stay at home moms have a larger uphill battle, since they may have been out of the workforce for awhile and may need to get a job. This and balancing the very important duties of being a mom can prove stressful, making divorce outcomes vital to the future of mom and child.
The following can serve as the stay at home moms playbook to divorce. Let’s dive in!
- Start Planning Ahead For Divorce
Planning ahead when it comes to divorce is an absolute must, especially for stay at home moms. The stress of going it alone can mount, but add in financial planning and it can be down right overwhelming.
“Divorce is stressful, and it can be a painful process for everyone involved, including your soon-to-be former spouse, your family, and your children,” Kessler & Solomaiany Family Law Attorneys explained. “Consequently, your decision should not be made without serious consideration.”
No matter who wants the divorce, planning ahead is the way to win. The first step is to take a hard look at finances. This can be income and bills, long-term debt (cars, house, student loans), shared investments, and taxes. Make a list and share this with your divorce attorney, letting them help guide you in making a strong plan.
- Stay Clear Headed And Patient
This is one of the most important ways for stay at home moms to win at divorce. Going over all the financial aspects may have stirred up stress, anger, doubt, and resentment, and this is normal. However, do not lose your cool, because it can come back to haunt you in court.
Keeping a clear head is a must. It allows you to look at the situation from a better divorce perspective while allowing you to keep negative words and fighting with your spouse non-existent. Even if he or she instigates a fight, stay calm and do not take the bait.
Keeping your cool is also beneficial for your children. Divorce is already a tough situation for kids, and seeing you lose your sanity in the process will only make it worse. Do it for yourself, your kids, and the best outcome of the divorce as a whole.
- Set Rules For The Separation
Since you are a stay at home mom, and the kids will be asking tons of questions if they are old enough to know change is happening, have clear rules for the separation. This will serve as a hard and fast guide, making things organized and slightly less chaotic for you and your children.
Why is this important? Separation rules are necessary because the actual road to divorce can be long and bumpy. If you and your spouse have been together for a very long time and share a lot of assets, finalizing divorce may take awhile.
In the meantime you will be separated, and will need rules. These rules could be court ordered or you may need to decide on child visitations, money to support children and pay household expenses, school payments for kids, and the list goes on.
You may find that divorce lawyers are best for mediating these rules to get a fast and hard fast plan in place. During separation, begin thinking about child support and you and your kids’ future after the divorce is finalized. This will give you a good idea of expenses in the future so you are prepared.
In conclusion . . .
Facing the challenges of divorce may seem overwhelming during the process, but it is important to remember the “why” and keep as positive of a mindset as possible. There was a reason behind the divorce and their very well could be a silver lining to all of it.
Is it more difficult for stay at home moms? Yes, but staying strong and moving forward in an organized way can make a big difference. From keeping a cool head to setting clear rules during separation, you can win at divorce.